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Is it possible to be in love and in a relationship with some one who has a strong Christian background.and my self having different paths I've chosen,makes me wonder is this the reason we debate over spirituality,because she slowing tryin to cros me over(as If she can)and it's become a bit annoying.so,my question is how do I find balance in terms of her pushing Christianity on me ,but in a suttle way?

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Permalink Reply by Becky on April 6, 2010 at 8:33am

I've run into this from both sides. Starting out as a right wing conservative christian and now a well shall we say Free Spirit. Trying to talk you out of your deeply set beliefs, in my opinion, is a slow brainwashing that "they" (see Zealots) tend to drill into their groups. That kind of person who says they are Christian or whatever, will not respect your healthy boundaries in my opinion.
So my first question would be.... Have you had a open, honest, quiet but firm discussion ( a Christian would say "Speak the Truth in Love.") on how much that makes you uncomfortable/frustrated/hurt/annoyed? If the answer is no, I'd say try that. If they don't respect your boundary after that, and especially if you remind them of it, calmly, when they forget then I'd say then a relationship is not possible in this instance.
That being said: everything is possible if you want it enough.
So the next question is: What are you willing to sacrifice in order to make this work?. If the answer is "nothing" then I'd say start looking elsewhere. Ultimately all relationships are about boundaries, communication, and compromise. If you can find those intellectually then the rest should come easy. Good Luck :)