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submissive or dominate?

what your thoughts? i can go either way... i like the role of the sub, as well as being the dom...

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Permalink Reply by Kieran on May 14, 2009 at 1:41am

I tend to be a switch also. Although since i am sub or Dom dependant on my partner`s wishes one could argue that I am simply an obliging sub

Permalink Reply by DIRTY BISHOP on May 14, 2009 at 9:02am

Ive thought about it for a long time but never had the nerve to try it, and im a bit scared, i geuss I would feel like my partner would think of me like I'm not normal or some thng, I have broght it up but still I dont know what to think of it all, on one hand I want to and the other Im afraid I would like it.

Permalink Reply by Mandi on May 14, 2009 at 10:51am

i agree that there is an obliging sub context to switching between the two... but i feel both roles are equally fun and fufilling..... in responce to ronald pope: i dont think that you should be scared to try out your fantasies. as long as both partners are fully aware of the rules and the boundries then you shouldn't have anything to worry about.

Permalink Reply by Alexandra Iris on June 17, 2009 at 6:25am

I too began as a switch because what my "master" realy wanted was a Domm woman, which he had with his late wife.He had a Mistress at the time and another female sub so i considerd 1 my sister and the other as my "Grand-Mistress"..like grand mother.I remained with him and learned alot but must admit i just wanted to please him and not become pro-Domm like his late wife sucesfully did in Long Beach, CA.
I no longer sub and probebly never will again. I am the 1 that wants to be pleased and served now. I can certanly understand the sub-space but would rather be in controle at this point of my life.

Permalink Reply by Carabella on June 17, 2009 at 3:44pm

I def tend to take the dominate role alot but there are times where I only want to be submissive too. I guess it tends to fluctuate depending on what is going on in my life. Like, have I been controlled alot lately or had to control alot. I consider the submissive role a complete sereness, that sometimes I actually just need. I could probably never be just one or the other, I tend to flip flop alot, and I like spontaneity as well as a partner who likes the same.

Permalink Reply by Kodi Jimenez on June 18, 2009 at 9:34am

I am very submissive. I tend to not want to control or dominate my lover. Sometimes though, my dominant side comes out and completely surprises me. But usually that only happens when I'm drunk though. Most of the time, I just want my lover to take over and do what they do best.

Permalink Reply by Steveo on October 27, 2009 at 5:25pm

I'm a switch.

Permalink Reply by lovin george on October 30, 2009 at 10:58am

both

Permalink Reply by Mircea on December 10, 2009 at 5:52pm

I'm a switch, but I as of late I am definitely leaning more to the submissive side. There is just something so arousing about being vulnerable. I love to be abused a little <3.

Permalink Reply by Steveo on December 12, 2009 at 10:34pm

wow, for some reson that just wet through me like a warm wind!!!!!!

Permalink Reply by Daphnis the Good Shepherd on July 26, 2011 at 5:14pm

This depends on the energy of the particular partner I am with. If he or she is of a more dominant nature than I and they know "Know the Ropes", then I will sub. If I am a more dominant person then they will be the sub and I know how to do it just right. Not too intense but not too lightly either. One must strike the right balance of giving pleasure with the pain.