The Online Predator.

This guide can be used by anyone whom is in or considering an online relationship.

The Online predator.

[Definition Of A Online predator]
The online predator is one who uses the mechanisms of cyber space to hunt/stalk human beings with the intent to exploit, rob, plunder and pillage their body, mind, heart and soul. This individual can be a man or woman, a man pretending to be a woman or a woman pretending to be a man. I also want to add these people can often be found posing as under age kids or teen agers to be honest they could pose as anyone.
[Characteristics of a predator]
1. Liar (self-explanitory)
2. Deceiver: His/Her own situation is presented as other than what it is they will take on the role of a victim to gain trust.
3. Betrayer: He/She is likely to break trust not always but normally they will slip up if one is on guard.
4. Insecure: He/She is worried others will be faithless or question their honor or intentions.
5. Inconsistant: He/She will say one thing then do another.
6. Lacking Honor: Usually while protesting He/She has honor.
7. Lack of Respect: He/She will often put others down especially those whom suspect or see him/her as a potential threat.
8. Transient: He/She is unlikely to have many long term friends.
9. Manipulator: He/She calculates and contrives for His/Her own benefit to the detriment of His/Her partner
10. Secretive: They will tend to cloak themselves and their activities.
11. Charming: If they could not steal your breath away, They would not be a successful hunter/preditor.
12. Selective: He/She picks His/Her victims carefully ,looking for weaknesses and filling the voids completely inserting themselves as just what they are looking for.
13. Chameleon: He/She will appear to fit any need perfectly and adapt to fill any desire. These people always watch their victims before they approach them.
14. Lacking In Self Control: Although at times , he/she may have extraordinary self control and discipline most often they will have tantrums and get angry when their intentions have been questioned.
A predator probably exhibits all these characteristics in all aspects of His/Her life. It may be the only place the predator seems to have honour and value. Truth is in Relationship he/she is developing with his victim. When developing a new relationship, a person should make a conscious effort to observe his/her partner's interactions with others, not just how he interacts with him/her. The predator may well reveal his/her true self through their interactions. But, the victim may only see this revelation if he/she is committed to taking every precaution for their own safety.
[predator warning signals and red flags]
While any of these phrases or actions may be acceptable in a given context, pay close attention when seeing or hearing them.
[Phrases]
1. Do not tell _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ .
2. ( _ _ _ _ _ ) is crazy ! ( or psycho, sick, a liar, or out to get me)
3. It would be best (or I insist that you) no longer speak to _ _ _ _ _ _.
4. I do not need to defend myself against lies.
5. They are just jealous ( of me, of us, of what we have, that you have me).
[Actions]
1. May seldom be in the chat rooms. Operates from other areas like various chat servers aswell as mutipal messangers.
2. Has personal information which is incomplete or not verifiable.
3. Becomes defensive or angry when questioned.
4. Questions the sincerity of the person when questioned.
5. He will usually discourage or forbid the practice of reference checks.
6. He will usually discourage or forbid the use of Safe Calls.
[The personal warning signals]
These are items that a person should pay attention to if they are saying them to themselves or hearing them from several others.
1. I feel he/she is just to good to be true.
2. You are hearing consistent warnings from more than one person.
3. Your instincts are whispering something is not right about this person.
The final best defense anyone has against an Online Predator is her/his own common sense and judgment. The person should always remember that desires, needs, and the heat of the moment can combine to drown that judgment. Always take a moment to step back, take a deep breath and look at a potential partner with common sense and not with passion/emotion.
Red Flags should NEVER! be ignored.
[Red Flags]
A "Red Flag" is any indication that you should steer clear of a particular person, either Man or Woman These can pop up at any time, though most often in the beginning of a potential relationship. They can be obvious or they can be subtle.
[Some examples may be]
1) Inappropriate questions or comments during the initial conversations, such as do you want to play? or what are you wearing? or what do you look like? or asking for your phone number immediately, etc. Such questions have nothing at all to do with relationships but rather indicate the person is looking for cyber or phone sex.
2) Moving too quickly: if the prospective individual seems to be in a hurry to begin a relationship, or to advance it faster than seems reasonable or comfortable for you. Like if they want to meet you within the first 10 minutes online. Trust is the cornerstone. and cannot be rushed. Clearly, there is no arbitrary time frame, but most long-lasting relationships take several weeks if not months to build before actual contact.
3) Lack of communication: if your potential partner is reluctant to discuss something with you, pay attention. Likewise, and equally serious, if you are told directly or indirectly, that you may not discuss something with others, or may not talk to someone else, or may not go to a particular area, be careful.
4) A persistent bad reputation: or unwillingness to give references. This can be tricky if the person you are talking to is new online, but it is still a red flag.
5) Trashing ex-partners. When someone is constantly talking about their ex trying to ruin their rep, try to keep in mind that you might be their "ex" someday and be subjected to such treatment if things do not go the way they want. This is something that both Men and Women are guilty of. Warning others of potential danger from an ex-partner is obviously a different case.
6) Frequent inconsistencies. If someone often makes contradictory statements from one day to the next, like Mon. tells you He/She has no children, then on Fri., mentions his/her son's birthday or something. If a person often seems to have a lot of trouble remembering what they have said to you from one day to the next, it could be that they are telling a lot of people a lot of different things. Just in general, I would encourage anyone to really try to get to know someone before making a final judgment on their character. However, caution and common sense should always rule. If you have doubts, do not give out personal information. You can still talk to this person, but be careful.
One can never be to careful we have to always keep in mind that for as many good people out there they are many bad ones too and it is our responsibility to take every precaution to protect ourselves and if a person can not respect that then you should consider their intentions and watch them carefully.