I said, "My grand daughter who is pretty much a cultural christian is very tolerant of my religious beliefs and even embraces the most fundamental of them". What I meant to say was that my daughter is a cultural christian and is very tolerant of my religious beliefs. Her daughter spends a great deal of time with us here at my home so we have a large influence on her.
I would like to think that I have done that for them but I guess it will truely show when they are just a tad older !
Gentle Breezes dear and Blessed Be
There's always the thing about our need to respect our parents' and other loved ones' right to their religion. The balance between teaching your children that their grandparents are believers in a non-tolerant faith and teaching them to respect their grandparents and others is a difficult one to find sometime. There's a real dichotomy there because you need for your children to understand that their grandparents' religion teaches non-tolerance also requires you to show them that you are tolerant of their grandparents' right to believe as they choose. If you've managed to do that you're a special woman. All of my family is made up of Christians and cultural christians. My grandson, after knowing us all and being exposed to various churches by his friends and some relatives, has chosen to follow a path very close to mine. My grand daughter who is pretty much a cultural christian is very tolerant of my religious beliefs and even embraces the most fundamental of them. So my grand daughter is being taught values, not religion. I'm hoping that she will then take those values and apply them to deciding whether she will embrace a religion or will not and which best represents her core values.
I guess I'm fortunate that my kids are a little older ( almost 12 and 7 ) but my children understand that The Christian faith teaches intolerance and I have expressed my reasons why I believe they do that , they also understand that our religion teaches us to respect other religions as we do our own and the only way to respect is to understand .Besides to quote one of my fave movies "The word for "god" in the hearts and lips of all children is MOTHER "
They listen and learn from me . It's a 2 way street where my mother and I are concerned , I'm teaching her while she teaches my children and she's learning to respect me as she understands !
My concern about allowing young children to attend a Christian church is that they would be taught that anyone of any pagan path is evil. There's no room in the Christian religion for tolerance of other religions. I would be worried that the child would be confused hearing that you were going to hell or that you were doing Satan's work and that you were doing evil things. As for Butterfly's question about what to tell her mother, I'd say, "Mother this is my choice and I demand that you respect it". She seems to want respect for her choice from you but doens't want to respect yours. This comes from her religious belief that her religion is the only correct one and that what you're doing is. at best, not a real religion and, at worst, evil. There's already so much Christian teaching out there in our cultural day to day that it tends to overwhelm all others in the minds of children.
Merry Meet to all the new members !
ButterflyNight , I just wanted to say that the best way for U to let ur children ( or at the moment child ) gain knowledge of all religions is to allow them to experience them . My mother (who is by no means a devoted christian ) takes my children to church with her ( when she's not working to go herself ) It apeises her and allows my kids to gain the knowledge to make their own choices in the long run . Raise your children with your faith and they will make the right choice
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