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Locking up your heart...
Do you think it is wrong, that after many things have happened to you, and you are on the verge of getting hurt again, it is wrong to lock certain emotions away? I have done this in the past, and it hasn't affected me, but I want to know what you guys think... It seems sensible enough, but I don't think that it is acceptable by any standards, due to the extremes that it goes to... Well, I hope that I hear many thought provoking responses... Until the next time, Blessed Be
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Permalink Reply by erthgoddss on
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Aha... a person who is living my life! lol Years ago... many years now... I did that same thing. I am an empath... so my emotions were on my sleeve for everyone to see. At that time I didn't know how to protect myself... so I got hurt.. over and over and over again. I did that very thing... I locked away those feelings. The thing is ... it eventually came back to bite me in the butt. Those emotions that I kept locked away wanted freedom. My emotions came out "sideways". Rather than love I projected hate or mistrust. I pushed people away for fear of getting too close and getting hurt again. I pushed people away that I really loved.... but was too fearful to allow in. I burned a lot of bridges with people I really did... and do.. care about.
Now that I am older... I realize getting hurt is not so bad. It is a lesson and we can move on. I can protect my deeper emotions... but let out the ones of love and kindness and caring. If people use me and throw me away... I realize that they have a problem ... not me.
The thing is I really do love and care about people in general... and I let it shine now. If someone hurts my emotions it is because I let them. I can't fault someone else for not having the same sensitivity that I do. However if they see the love and kindness I project and honor it... that means they are also a person I want in my life. I don't burn bridges anymore... and perhaps it is an age thing... I can forgive someone when my feelings and emotions are trampled, more easily now. Perhaps when they can learn from me... that is my hope.
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Permalink Reply by jaymacfee ~ WhiteBear on
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It is a very natural reaction. We always want to avoid pain, it's a hardwired evolutionary mechanism in all beings. The problem lies in the fact that it (the hurt) will have to come out eventually. And usually, hurting others and ourselves in the process. The best way is to accept the fact that we are experiencing pain, hurt, lack or whatever it is, and say "OK, its all right to experience this." Then go on. It's NOT easy, fun, or comfortable. It does cut the healing time down by a factor of at least 10. Yeah, I've been there. I hate being there. But if I cut myself off from these experiences, I'm really not living just existing. So, I smile, sigh, and realize that the internal bleeding I'm feeling will eventually heal. It takes trust and love.
Blessings,
Bear
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